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A good blogging friend, Laura Best, recently posted an article about why potential writers don’t write the novel they always wanted to write.  Since I am all about following your dreams, I thought it was worth sharing.

5 Reasons For Not Writing That Novel

by Laura Best 

 I hear people all the time express a deep desire to write a book. It happened just the other day. “I always wanted to write,” an older woman said to me. Had I not just met her I might have asked, “Well, what’s stopping you?”Often when someone learns that I’m an author it brings their own unfulfilled dreams of writing to the foreground. It seems that many people would like to write, they just don’t get around to it. Really, it makes me a little sad to know this. Whenever possible, we should try to pursue the dreams we carry in our hearts. Have you ever stopped to consider there is a reason those dreams are there?

Some dreams are fleeting fancies, as wistful as pink cotton candy — “Oh, wouldn’t it be nice to write a book?” These dreams don’t really count because they really don’t come from the heart. They come from an idea that might have popped into our heads one day as we stood in the bookstore musing over the bestseller’s list thinking it would be super cool to see our name there. I’ve known people who thought they’d be able to whip up a story, no problem, but ended up discouraged after their first few tries.

Other dreams are of the niggling kind, they stick to us like grease, and no matter what they never go away. If we’re lucky we may be able to keep them at bay for a time, by allowing life’s distractions to keep us from taking action, because one of the scariest things in the world to do is to follow our dreams. I mean, what if we fall flat on our faces? Maybe even scarier—What if we succeed?

So here we go…..5 Reasons For Not Writing That Novel

1. I’ll start writing that novel when he kids are a bit older— A facebook buddy cited this one awhile back. It sounds like a good excuse. It’s up there with “the house won’t be messy as soon as the kids move out.” Hmmm, I believed that illusion for years, but now that the kids have moved that theory’s been shot to pieces. When my kids were small I knew that I had to have something in my life for me, something that defined me in some other way other than a mommy. Not everyone feels this way and I get that. But remember when those kids finally do move out you may end up asking yourself what am I going to do now? If you’re already writing, for whatever time you can allow, you won’t be asking that question. The answer will already be there.

2. I’ll start writing that novel once I retire…Many people say this, but here’s my theory, if we couldn’t find the time to start writing in the first 65 years of our lives it’s unlikely we’ll find oodles of time once we retire. Retired people are some of the busiest people I know. They just never slow down. They’re off vacationing and camping and having a grand old time.

3. I’ll start writing that novel when I have the money to take a writing course right now I’m barely making ends meet. Okay, I get the money thing. Years ago when we were first married there was barely enough money to pay the bills let alone dare to dream about spending money on something so frivolous. Here’s the thing… While writing courses are wonderful, not everyone has access to them. Here’s the other thing…You don’t need a writing course to get started. Think of all the great writers out there who wrote their books during a time when writing courses did not exist. It’s not impossible.

4.I’ll write that novel as soon I broaden my vocabulary because we all know that writers need to know the meaning of every word especially those twelve letter ones. When I first started writing I thought I had to wow everyone with my use of the English language—Wrong. Writing that is simple and easy to understand will resonate with many readers, your storytelling ability is far more important than twelve letter words. Learn to tell a good story.

5. I’ll start writing that novel as soon as I’ve experienced more of life so that I will have plenty to write about. Well, guess what? My two-year-old granddaughter is starting to tell bunny stories. They may only be a paragraph long, but she’s only two. Now if a two year old can come up with something, I’m willing to bet you’re selling yourself short if you think you need more life experience. People mistakenly believe that in order to write you have to have travelled and experienced the world, but some of the loveliest stories I’ve ever read were based on very simple themes.

There you have 5 reasons why would-be writers are not out there writing. A few of them worked for me in the past until I finally determined that nothing would stop me. The truth is there will always be things out there that will take up our time, but if you’re really meant to be doing something (and it doesn’t just have to be writing) by letting your dream fizzle away you’re not being true to the person that counts the most.The happiest people I know are the ones who work toward making their dreams come true. Be that person!

What reason do you have for not writing that novel?

http://lauraabest.wordpress.com/2012/06/13/5-reasons-for-not-writing-that-novel/

 

 

I love to learn about other authors and where they get their ideas. I recently interviewed Brenda Iovino,  author of  The Shadow of You.

Here is the blurb from the author’s website:

Monica is a 40’ish divorcee raising her teenage daughter in New York City. She writes for a magazine and her life is ordinary in every way, but one. She has vivid memories and dreams of another life, another time, and another place. Her name is Flying Snow Goose and she is a member of the Dine tribe in northern New Mexico, in the 18th century.

After questioning her sanity, Monica decides it was something she read, or the vestige of some childhood fantasy. But, then, he arrived. His name is Hawk, a regal Indian brave, and the husband of Flying Snow Goose. Monica could see and feel him in ways she could not understand, much less explain to anyone else. Yes, he became her lover.

Trying to balance her present life with the invasion and intensity of her former life as Snow, Monica struggles to live as a contemporary woman in a reality that is not as simple as most of us are used to living. The veil has been pierced, and this modern day woman must discover whether she is the victim, or is blessed, by this strange revelation, this Native who happens to be in her Manhattan apartment now.

What inspired you to write your book, The Shadow of You?

 I came to write this novel by sheer necessity.  I know that sounds ominous, but the truth is, it is somewhat.  I write plays mostly, with a few short stories thrown in.  But, I had reached a point where I was too emotional and not able to go forward with any fresh stories.  I’m trying to put this in a perspective that your readers will understand.  I was having an emotional block due to ‘Hawk’s’ mounting presence.  Yes, the character in my book is real and has been with me for years but started coming into my emotional life more and more.  A dear friend of mine who is ‘gifted’ said I needed to write about him and he basically said the same thing too.  What I mean to say is that my friend channeled him, unbeknownst to me and I had not asked her to, even though I was aware of her gifts.  She gave me a letter he dictated to her, for me. It was then that I realize I needed to articulate our story.

 The novel is based on true events.  Hawk gave me our memories in that previous time when we were married and the novel tells our story.

 What’s your life in New Mexico like and what brought you there?

 This was a calling of a time past and previous life.  When the realtor showed me my property, it was the first on her list; I got out, looked at those mountains and told her I was home.  I didn’t need to see any other places, and I didn’t.

 Truth is, this is where Hawk and I lived, so it was him calling me back.  I love it here in Northern New Mexico,Taos, (I live 23 miles West of Taos) is a wonderful place to explore the arts, all kinds.

 I have my horses, dogs and cats and all the open range and mountains I could ever want.  The beauty is endless.

 Did you self publish?

Yes I did.  I couldn’t see myself going to a publishing house with my novel.  Not sure of all the whys in that statement but I chose not to.  I went with Create Space, after research.  I know that there are many, but I had to decide on one and they have been very good to me.  Easy to work with and available at all times.  It’s a good fit for me at this time.

 Who are your favorite authors/books?

 I’m much into nostalgia, by that I mean I love Hemmingway and Fitzgerald.  Lawrence Durrell’s The Alexandria Quartet is a favorite of mine but my favorite book is The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho.

 I’m in-between books at the moment, but have been thinking of rereading the Alexandria Quartet, which are four books.

 My problem is if I’m trying to write, I try not to start a book because I tend to become consumed with what I’m reading and I have no time to write.  Does that make sense?

 I am mounting a play of mine at this time, ‘That Irish Thing’, and I will be directing for the first time.  So my head is all about this.

 What did you read as a child?

 My mother was a great reader and I inherited her library since my sisters weren’t into reading and neither was my father.  So, I just picked from her books and read.  No favorites just enjoyed the many vast stories.  I used it as an escape since I was the only introvert in my family.  I still love the feel of a book and at one time owned a used bookstore.  I just bought a Kindle Fire but mostly so I wouldn’t have to lug my laptop with me, every time I travel, which I do frequently.  Nice that with the Kindle Fire you can go onto the web, and it’s mostly correspondence I need to keep up with, when traveling.

 I love the name of your daughter, how did you come up with it and does it have a special meaning.

 Kryssandra’s name would have been Clea, a character in one of Lawrence Durrell’s The Alexandria Quartet books entitled ‘Clea’.  Her father did not care for it.  We had decided if she were a boy, she would be named after him and if a girl I could sort of pick it.  I was reading an article in Life Magazine at the time, may have been an old one and the name Cassandra popped out to me.  We decided to make it a little different and replace the ‘C’ with a ‘K’.

 I want to thank you Darlene for the opportunity to be a guest on your blog and tell your readers that The Shadow of You is available on Amazon, Kindle and on my web site, http://dreamartsproductions.com/what-have-we-done.html and also at local stores in Taos, New Mexico.

 Namaste

Brenda Iovino

Author of  The Shadow of You

 Thank you, Brenda for being a guest on my blog.  You book sounds fascinating and just as fascinating, is your life.  I wish you much luck with this book and with all your writing.  Should I find myself near  Taos, New  Mexico, I will be sure to have you sign a copy of your book.

If anyone would like to be a guest on my blog, please let me know.

Today I am participating in a month long blog hop called Self as Child promoting an exciting new concept called YouthTube!

 

What sparks a child’s dreams? Who encourages those dreams?  

My grandmother gave me a colouring book filled with pictures of children from around the world dressed in traditional garments.  I loved that book and dreamt of visiting those fascinating places one day as I coloured each page. Growing up on a farm in the Canadian prairies, we didn’t venture very far.  My grade three teacher taught us about exotic places like Mexico. She gave us Mexican names, brought sombreros and serapes into the classroom, played Mexican music and served Chilli Con Carne. This further wet my appetite for travel. Miss Roll also discovered my vivid imagination and encouraged me to write my stories down.

Life truly does happen while you are making other plans. I got married, had children, worked full time, took correspondence courses, attended the occasional workshop and dabbled in writing.  I filled a number of scribblers with short stories and ramblings over the years.  The thought of being published was a distant and almost impossible dream.  It didn’t look like I was going to see much of the world either.

But the dreams that were planted remained. I boarded a plane for the first time when my second husband took me to England to visit his family.  You can imagine my excitement when I finally found myself in another country. Over the years we traveled back to England a number of times as well as to other fascinating destinations, includingMexico. With every trip, I became as excited as the child who held that international children’s colouring book in her hands.

Ten years ago a friend took a job in the United Arab  Emirates and invited me for a visit.  I jumped at the chance.  What an amazing experience.  I discovered a totally different culture, unique scenery and so much history.  I fell in love with the place and the people. Returning home, I had many stories to tell.  Although I felt compelled to write these stories down, they just didn’t portray the excitement and feelings I had while there.

Then one sleepless night I started writing the story from the eyes of a twelve-year-old.  I based it on my experiences and added some colourful characters and an adventure.  It was fun to spin my story in a way that kids would enjoy at the same time as learning about another country.  My hope was that it would entice them to travel to other countries some day.  Amanda in Arabia-The Perfume Flask was born and eventually published.  My dream of being published came true.

Miss Roll and me, grade three

Still pinching myself to believe I am a published author after all these years, I am so glad I followed my dream of travel, which led to a writing career.  I will forever be grateful to my grandmother and Miss Roll for planting the seeds, and for all the other people in my life who encouraged me to nurture and grow those dreams. As adults, we must all support the young people in our lives to follow their dreams and encourage their creativity.

Youth-Tube is a new enterprise of Plum Tree Books  for children 12 & under, that encourages early literacy and children’s creativity. We are offering a safe and constructive environment for children to share art, stories, favourite books, music, etc.     This is a great opportunity for children’s artwork to be showcased. All the relevant info can be found  HERE with details of submission guidelines. The submissions deadline has been extended past the original date of 15th May. So get your creative children or grandchildren on board!

Check out some of the other amazing blogs that have been taking part in the blog hop promoting Self as Child throughout the month of May.

Tues 1st May: launch on the event page:http://www.facebook.com/events/314596525276392/

and on http://www.facebook.com/PlumTreeBooks

Blog: http://ontheplumtree.wordpress.com/

Wed. 2nd – http://passionfind.wordpress.com Tonia Harris

Thurs. 3rd – http://thefairytaleasylum.wordpress.com/ Marta Pelrine-Bacon

Fri. 4th – http://www.shevata-cccole.blogspot.com C.C.Cole

Sat. 5th http://hiddenearthseries.blogspot.co.uk/ janet Young Beasley

Sun. 6th – http://thebumpyroadtopublishing.blogspot.com – Deb Hockenberry

Mon. 7th –http://ontheplumtree.wordpress.com – Niamh Clune

Tues. 8th – http://sooziebird.blogspot.com/ – Susie Bertie

Fri: 11th http://girlseeksplace.wordpress.com/2012/05/07/on-being-a-writer Brianna Soloski

Sat:12th http://optymyst.wordpress.com – JanCan / @OptyMyst – Not Quite Dead Yet

Mon. 14th – http://lorhainneeckhart.wordpress.com/ – Lorhainne Eckhart (The Choice of Giving)

Tues. 15th –http://www.Heartspoken.com -Elizabeth Cottrell

Wed 16th –http://loraneleavy.blogspot.co.uk/ Lorane Leavy

Thurs: 17th: http://thiskidreviewsbooks.com/ This Kid Reviews Books

Friday: May 18th http://aprilthomasbooks.wordpress.com April Thomas

Sat. 19th –www.jontybabe.blogspot.com Jonty-Babe

Sun: 20th: https://darlenefoster.wordpress.com/ Darlene Foster

Mon 21st – http://steepedinbooks.blogspot.com Georgia Saunders

Tues 22  http://marthamoravec.com/2012/05/too-fat-to-live/  Martha Moravec

Wed: 23rd May: http://tomdharris.wordpress.com/ Tom Harris

I am very happy to be part of Plum Tree Books and the YouthTube initiative.  Thanks Niamh Clune!

 

On Sunday I went for a walk around my neighbourhood and the beach near my house and thought about how lucky I am to live where I do.  It is a dream come true for me to live in such a beautiful place. I believe in an attitude of gratitude, so decided to make a list of things I am grateful for.  Here are just a few of my favourite things that came to mind on my walk:

 

 My favourite neighbourhood coffee shop

 

My favourite pastime

 

My favourite flower shop (across the street from my house)

 

My favourite beach (10  minutes from my house)

 

My favourite log at the beach (where I often read)

 

My favourite man!

The list could go on but I will stop here.  What are some things you are grateful for in your life right now? 

This is a great article I want to share with my readers. Enjoy!

 

5 Tips for Living In the Space Between Dreams & Reality & Why You Should by Sheri McConnell

“Don’t be afraid of the space between your dreams & reality. If you can dream it, you can make it so.” – Belva Davis

I absolutely adore this quote. I feel myself expand each time I read it. When I found it earlier this year, I realized I’ve grown accustomed to living in this place. I’ve been practicing awareness and shifting and walking back and forth on the bridge between dreams and reality in bigger way for over a decade now. And from the outside, I am sure you can tell because so many dreams have been fulfilled. So I’d like to share a few ways you can create a life that allows you to live in this electrifying (and sometimes scary!) fulfilling space.

Always Have More Than One Dream At A Time

The best way I know how to deal with the length of time it takes to reach some of our dreams is to have multiple dreams at one time. Write them down so they become physical on paper and anchored in the universe and that is the first step to making them become a reality.

Be Careful Who Your Smart Five Are

You’ve all heard how we do anything is how we do everything. And one of the best ways we can do things better is to be extremely conscious of who we spend time with. I call it my Smart Five. Who are the five people you spend the most time with? Are they positive people? Are they supportive? I know how hard it is to truly look at this area of your life. I get it. I let go of a bi-polar mother and walked away from an abusive marriage in order to protect the dreams and future reality of my children and myself. If you feel like it is time for some restructuring in this area, shift gracefully by putting up boundaries that allow you to have some empty space so you can manifest healthier people into your life.

Be Aware of Relationship Flow

Back when I was independent and loved everything in my life to be perfect, I suffered. Then I discovered the power of being interdependent and the beauty of flowing relationships. These are relationships that allow you to give without fear of not ever receiving. Helping other people make their dreams a reality is an interdependent way to live. Being in relationship flow with the entire universe (and the people in it) means that you know if you really need anything, it will come to you when it is supposed to or not at all.

Feed Yourself Along the Journey

Living in the space between dreams and reality requires lots of energy. So feed yourself knowledge (the mind), real food from the earth (the body), and find something creative to do that makes time disappear (the soul). This is one of the biggest reasons people don’t dream. They simply don’t have the energy to.

Let Yourself Shift for Higher Value

There is no way that dreams can ever become reality if we aren’t willing to let go of what is lesser value in our current lives. It doesn’t mean that we don’t still love them and that we didn’t grow from having them in our lives. It just means that sometimes to make space for higher value in our lives, there are activities and people that must be let go.
Sheri McConnell is the CEO of the Smart Women’s Institute of Entrepreneurial Learning (formerly the National Assn of Women Writers-2001). You can visit Sheri, access her free article archive, and grab lots of free stuff at http://www.smartwomeninstitute.com. Sheri lives in San Antonio, Texas with her husband, their four children, and two really cute weenie dogs.

I have been invited to visit Laura Best’s site as a guest blogger, talking about how I got the idea for my Amanda stories.  Here is the post.  Please read and comment if you wish.  Thank you Laura for the invitation.

http://lauraabest.wordpress.com/2011/07/19/quest-blogger-darlene-foster/

“To those who are awake, there is one ordered universe, whereas in sleep each man turns away from this world to one of his own” Heraclitus

We all have dreams; some appear during sleep, others while awake. They can guide us through life – as long as we listen to them. So many times we put our dreams on the backburner, but they are always there. They often appear when we least expect them.

When I was living in Calgary, I attended a sales meeting one cold February morning. As a warm-up exercise we were asked to write down our dreams for the next 3 months, the next 2 years and the next 20 years; and then share them with the group. I wrote that I dreamt of going on a holiday to a nice warm place within 3 months, I dreamt of living in a warmer place within 2 years and I dreamt of retiring in a nice warm place where you never had to wear socks. The group laughed and said my dreams were extremely focused. It could have been the weather at the time.

March in Alberta

I worked very hard and within three months made enough money to take my husband and myself to the British Virgin Islands for 10 days. It was our first holiday in a tropical climate. As I lay on the beach soaking in the warm sun I thought – this is definitely a dream come true. Within 2 years I was asked to open branch office for my company in Vancouver; we packed our things and moved to the west coast of Canada. Here we enjoy a much milder climate, enjoy walks on the beach and can view flowers blooming all year round. I often feel as if I am living in a dream world.

Spring on the west coast

We haven’t retired yet, but we are thinking of Spain, Arizona, the Caribbean or any place warm (where you don’t have to wear socks).

Sunny Spain

I am glad I listened to those dreams!

Perfection stands in the way of our dreams.  I am sharing this insightful article as I wish everyone an amazing life!

“What does perfection have to do with creating an amazing life?”
by Jan Janzen

Nothing. Yet many people are waiting to have an amazing life when all the ducks are lined up in a row, the bills are paid, the kids are in college, or they’ve found the perfect relationship. Honestly, if that’s you, you’ll be waiting a long time for perfection to happen.

The expression “ducks lined up in a row” is a popular saying that implies that everything needs to be in order. Originating from bowling alley lanes of yesteryear where the pins were called ducks, today we use the expression to signify that the pieces of our lives need to be in place before we move forward.

Now that may be possible with bowling alley pins or even ducks for a moment or two, but it is completely unrealistic to expect all your ducks to be in a row in real life. Waiting for that to happen will only create expectations that go unfulfilled and leave yo u with a life that is a far cry from amazing.

Why do we often expect to be able to line all our ducks up in a row? Our culture, upbringing, religion and what I call tribal mentality tells us that is what is necessary before we can do what we want. Your house needs to be cleaned before you go play. Your work needs to be done before you have fun. Your bills need to be paid before you take a vacation. Are you hearing someone’s voice when you read those words? Note if you are!

On the other hand, there is a completely contrasting message of “play now, pay later” and a “you deserve a break today” philosophy that can play havoc with your mind.

It becomes that constant tug-of-war struggle of “do I or don’t I”? As most of us are aware, that war only creates an overwhelming feeling of guilt, anxiety and fear – all emotions that are not conducive to creating an amazing life.

And to top it all off, the result of those conflicting emotions is a lukewarm, boring, dissatisfactory life. Trying to walk the tightrope between doing what you really want, which usually involves the feeling of “freedom”, and creating the perfect environment to do it in, which invokes the emotion of “responsibility” results in a life that just doesn’t work well at all.

It may look like this for you. You take the weekend off but you feel guilty because the house needs cleaning or there is still work to do at the office. You spend the day wading through tax receipts and getting your financial house in order and you are resentful because you really wanted to go hiking. It’s a no-win lifestyle that the vast majority of people in the Western world live. It creates havoc emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally and even financially. Here’s what I suggest to get through this, because everybody I know has experienced it, and most pe ople are living it right now 

  1. Find out where your need for perfection comes from (parents, religion, culture etc). You can discover this by asking yourself some questions like: Where did I learn that I needed to be perfect? Are my parents perfectionists? Is my partner a perfectionist? Did I grow up in a religion that taught me that perfection was the ultimate goal? Then let go of those beliefs. If you’re not sure how to do that, my book Getting Off the Merry-Go-Round explains it in detail. But even using the words, “I let go in every cell of my body the need to be perfect”, is a good place to start.
  2. Pick one thing that would help make your life more amazing in the short-term. Maybe it’s going for a hike every weekend, having one night off a week to just relax, or not setting the alarm on Saturday morning. I’m sure you can find one thing to incorporate into your life this week that would make it more amazing.
  3. Choose one goal that you see as the “if I don’t do this before I die, I will be very upset” goal and focus on achieving that.

I am not saying that you shouldn’t have your bookkeeping in order or live in a clean house. It’s just that you can never do it all. Something will always have to give – always.

However, having the financial resources to pay people to do lots of those things for you will make a world of difference. You could be out hiking and your bookkeeper could be doing your accounting. You could be at the movies with your family while the maid cleans the house. That to me is the ideal scenario and one I focus on daily. Creating your financial freedom will allow you to have more of your ducks in a row than someone who has to do it all by themselves because there is no money. But even billionaires can only be in one place at a time and have to set priorities. They just have more choice than the typical person.

Creating perfection has NOTHING to do with creating an amazing life. Let that one go and take one step this month towards creating your amazing life. Trust that it will be imperfect and love every minute of it!

Jan Janzen is a non-denominational minister, healer and business coach. She is the author of four books and 8 CDs for the spiritual entrepreneur. To receive Jan’s complimentary ebook: 10 Secrets to Living the Life of Your Dreams, visit www.janjanzendaily.com

“Dreams are necessary to life.” – Anais Nin

Welcome to my new blog. This blog is for writers, readers, travelers, dreamers and interesting people of all ages. I hope you enjoy my blog, and I welcome all comments, suggestions and ideas.

Here is my first post.

June was a month for some of my dreams to become reality.  For many years I have wanted to go up in a Hot Air Balloon.  On June 5, 2010, that dream was realized.  My dear hubby surprised me with a gift of a Hot Air Balloon ride for my birthday. It took us three tries, but eventually the weather was perfect and I was able to ascend in the balloon.

Filling the balloon with hot air
Ready to go and so excited
Then we were off

The trip was amazing.  We floated over farms, forests and fields with Mount Baker, Washington in clear view.  There was no feeling of movement, just the sensation of being suspended in air. Like Arianna in Jane Urquhart’s Changing Heaven, I felt as light as milkweed. 

Stunning views of Mount Baker
Floating over the BC countryside
Could I be any happier?
Firing the balloon to keep it afloat

Our seasoned aeronaut landed the balloon in a field of clover so gently we didn’t realize we were back on the ground.  The evening ended with the traditional glass of champagne as the sun set behind the mountains.  A perfect end to a perfect day.    

Landing in a field of clover
The end of a perfect day

We all helped unroll the balloon before it was filled with hot air. Then we helped to roll it up again at the end of the flight. Hubby took pictures, then jumped in the car and met us at the field to take more pictures and help put the balloon away. I took pictures of the scenery while up in the air.

It was certainly a dream come true, one I will never forget. Thanks to hubby for making it happen.

 


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