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Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – Guest Post – I Wish I Knew Then What I Know Now! by Darlene Foster

Posted on: May 7, 2022

I am part of an excellent series on Sally Cronin’s blog called, I Wish I knew Then What I Know Now. There are many things I wish I had known when I was younger, but I chose to talk about unnecessary worrying. If you haven’t already read it on Sally’s popular blog, check it out and let me know what you think about the subject.

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I am sure like me, there have been times when you have wondered what difference might have been made to your life, if your younger self had been gifted with the experience and knowledge you have accumulated over the years.

I invited several friends from the writing community to share their thoughts on this subject which I am sure you will enjoy as much as I did.

I wish I knew then what I know now! by Darlene Foster

I believe we learn as we go, and specific knowledge appears when we need it. If we knew everything at birth, there would be nothing to live for. But one thing I wish I had learned earlier in life is that worrying is futile.

I come from a long line of worriers; my mother and grandmother were masters of the art of worrying. I’m sure the women who came before them…

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38 Responses to "Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – Guest Post – I Wish I Knew Then What I Know Now! by Darlene Foster"

Thanks very much for sharing your thoughts on the prompt Darlene.. lovely to have you over ♥

It was great to be part of this series. Thanks so much.

I really enjoyed this reflection, Darlene.

Thanks, Jacqui. Something to ponder.

This was a nice reflection, Darlene.

I know I’m guilty about worrying too much too and need to do a better job of letting things go.

It’s inherent and hard to let go of. xo

Darlene, thank you for sharing your story and your wisdom. I loved the line, ‘If we knew everything at birth, there would be nothing to live for’.

Thanks, Sylvia. Learning is part of life’s adventure!

It’s Smitha, Darlene 🙂

Darlene I have looked at your smiling face for years and, thought why she looks like she has never had a worry! Thank you for sharing this. You bore your worries with Grace and like you I have learned worrying is quite useless but not so easy to give up! Chris

Thanks, Chris. I have never felt that I should spread my worries on to others and keep my worried face at home. Hugs!

I enjoyed this post very much, Darlene. And I never would have thought you were a worrier.

Maybe I’m a good actor as well. xo

Yes, we don’t show our emotional state on our social media. That is a fact.

Your post definitely struck a chord with me.

Thanks, Liz. We don’t always talk about our incessant worrying.

You’re welcome, Darlene.

Great post, Darlene. I learned some time ago to stop worrying over things I can’t control, and it’s worked for the most part. I admit, though, that the threat of a nuclear war worries me these days, (it used to when I was a child too) but I’m not letting it keep me up nights. As you pointed out so well, there are always plenty of things to worry about, and each new one is a challenge I work to put into perspective. I’m also a pretty optimistic person, and I believe in enjoying every good day as much as I can.

As a child, I worried about nuclear war to the point of making myself ill. I have had to put it out of my mind, even though the fear is always there. I’m a positive person as well and always thinks the best of even the worst people. I feel it’s the best way to get through life.

You’re right, Darlene. Staying positive helps so much. The power of suggestion and things we tell ourselves can make a huge difference.

A wonderful reflection, Darlene. I enjoyed your thoughtful insights which resonated with my personal experience. Many years ago I read, Carrie Ten Boom’s book “The Hiding Place.” I like her take on worry:

“Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength- carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” Corrie Ten Boom

That is an excellent quote. I must look up this book. Thanks!

Great prompt and great reflections! Like you, I am a firm believer in learning as I go!

My dad, a lifelong learner, always said, “You stop learning the day you die.” We learn as we go and as we need.

I love that song ‘Don’t Worry Be Happy’ too. What a great philosophy. I think I could do with worrying a little less too.

Thanks, Norah. Just listening to the news can cause us to worry, as well as our own thoughts. I have stopped listening to the news. It helps.

I’m sure it does, Darlene. I should try stopping sometime. 🙂

I was delighted to read this on Sally’s blog!

Thanks for your comment over there.

My pleasure, Darlene!

Your share and wisdom gleaned over the years was wonderful, Darlene. I’ve enjoyed these posts and getting your know everyone better. Here’s to finding the confidence to follow our dreams. 🙂

Thanks, Diana. It is great to get to know everyone better. We are all human. xo

A great article, Darlene – I really enjoyed your wisdom. I tend to easily press my own high anxiety buttons, but getting much better nowadays. Toni x

Thanks, Toni. I believe we are our own worst enemies. Dr. Phil said, Anxiety is an inside job.

I hope your wisdom can rub off on me. I worry too much!

Thanks, I think we all do at times. Glad that as I get older I don’t worry as much.

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