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Memories of Mom

Posted on: April 5, 2021

Bette Frisch: December 25th, 1928 to March 17th, 2021

My heart is broken as I recently lost my dear sweet mom. I know she is at peace and with my dad and brother, but I will miss seeing her smiling face forever. Due to Covid, I was not able to say goodbye or be with the family at the small graveside service in Canada, which was very upsetting. However, I have many good memories that bring me much comfort. As my daughter said, she showed us what unconditional love looked like.

Mom was a Christmas baby, born December 25th, 1928 at Hilda, Alberta, the oldest of six children. She first attended school at Echodale where her Aunt Beth was the teacher. She enjoyed school and was a good student. She met the love of her life, Herb Frisch, at a local dance and married him on October 2, 1947. They were married for 59 years, until his passing in 2007. Family was everything to Mom. She devoted her life to looking after everyone, even those not part of our family. She was an excellent cook, baker, seamstress, knitter and gardener. Everyone loved her kuchen and perogies. Her traditional German food was delicious, but she was not afraid to try new recipes. Her Christmas dinners and branding party spreads are legendary. Her home was always open to guests, and she could whip up a fabulous meal for unexpected visitors with little effort. No one left her house hungry. Mom worked hard on the farm, milking cows, feeding pigs and chickens, making her own butter, bread, jams and preserves, and tending a large vegetable garden. Every night before bed, she wrote in her journal, documenting the days activities. Her strong faith sustained her throughout her life especially during times of great sorrow. She was an active member of the United Church of Canada, where she taught Sunday school, was a CGIT (Canadian Girls in Training) leader and belonged to the UCW (United Church Women) for many years.

Mom loved Tim Horton’s ice caps, nice clothes, dancing with dad, playing scrabble with Aunt Barbara and reading my books. But most of all, she loved all of us. She had four children, three grandchildren, seven great-grandchildren and two great-great grandchildren, as well as many nieces, nephews, cousins and people she made to feel like part of the family.

Here is what one cousin had to say about her after hearing of her passing:

Bette – Small but mighty…she moved with quick, efficient steps in the kitchen, a tea towel over one shoulder while scraping the cake batter from mixing bowl to baking pan – another coffee cake ready to bake! Herb and Bette’s home was home for so many of us! She welcomed all of us! Always fun and laughter, warmth and love. That short 35 minute drive out for just the day or a three-night sleep over! Or those gatherings in Elkwater for a day-long picnic. Or visits to our house after getting grocery – the ice cream was always brought in to the freezer so they could stay for supper! Oh silly memories, but they mean so much! 

Another cousin had this to say:

Our family visited the Frisch’s farm many times when I was a child and my brother and I would stay a few days each summer. Bette and Herb were always welcoming and hospitable. Being able to experience a mixed farming operation and seeing how Bette and Herb embraced this lifestyle of hard work was a positive influence. Bette was always friendly and always answered her younger cousins’ questions about the farm.

And from two nieces:

I have such amazing memories of Auntie Bette. She was a true gem and never missed a birthday. Even when we got funny gifts! We were blessed to have such a beautiful person in our lives.

Aunty Bette is definitely an important part of my life – childhood memories on the farm shelling washtubs full of peas, riding horses, wonderful meals and evening cards or games with snacks before bedtime!

And from one of her former CGIT members:

Betty was a wonderful lady and mentor for me in my youth. 

A sweet and kind woman who will be missed by many. May you fly with the angels, Mom. 

Here is a video I created with a collection of pictures from mom´s life.

There are three things that last forever: faith, hope, and love, and the greatest if the three is love. 1 Corinthians 13, 13

133 Responses to "Memories of Mom"

I am so sorry for your loss and pain. What wonderful memories she has left behind!! Stay well.

Thank you.

You are so very welcome. Wishing you peace, love and strength.

I am so sorry for you loss, sending you a big hug

Precious memories recorded for you and posterity. The video is super. I am sure it was bittersweet creating this tribute to your mom, as I did more than five years ago for my own.

Yes, as I Corinthians 13:13 proclaims, love is eternal. Most importantly, you will see your mother again in the next world, and with a resurrected body. Praise the LORD!

May the risen Lord hold you in his arms offering comfort and hope. ((( )))

Thank you so much, Marian. It was healing to create the video. I can’t believe it has already been 5 years since your mother left us. ICorinthians 13:13 is my favourite Bible quote.

I’m so sorry for your loss, Darlene. You have posted a wonderful tribute to your mum.

Thank you so much, Mary. Happy Easter. xo

A beautiful tribute to your dear mom. So sorry for your loss.

I’m so sorry for your loss, Darlene. What a beautiful tribute you put together.

Thank you, she was a special person.

A lovely tribute to your dear Mom, Darlene. Her cooking and food sounds very like in our household. I bet you can recall the enticing smells coming from her busy oven…She will remain in your heart for ever. RIP. Thinking of you. Hugs xx

Thank you, Joy. The smell of fresh-baked bread will always make me think of mom.

Dear Darlene, What a sad time for you and your family. I know it was especially difficult as the pandemic robs us of the basic human comfort of gathering together for mutual solace and support. I love your beautiful post about your mother and especially the wonderful collection of photos in your video. Thank you so much for sharing your memories of your lovely mother’s life.

Thank you so much, Barb. I could have written pages, and someday I may, but I picked out the things I remember fondly of her. Since I was unable to go to the service, I had to make my own by putting together the video. I’m pleased you liked it.

I send you my deepest condolences on the loss of your mother. You have written such a beautiful tribute and it serves as evidence of a life well lived. May you find peace and joy in your memories.

Thanks, Maggie. I am fortunate that I have such wonderful memories.

So sorry for your loss, Darlene. What a beautiful tribute. A full life, well lived.

Thanks, Jane. It was a life well-lived.

A wonderful video of your mother and tribute to her long life, Darlene. I think this is a lovely thing to do and something you will be able to watch over and over again. Hugs.

Thanks, Robbie. I feel good all over whenever I watch the video. We are lucky to be a family of picture takers so we have a lot of them.

I know how you feel after loosing my husband on Wednesday 🙏😊❤️

I am so sorry to hear this. She sounded like a salt of the earth sort of woman. I would have liked to meet her.

That is exactly what she was, the salt of the earth. You would have liked her. Thanks for your lovely words.

Sending you love, hugs, and prayers, Darlene. Your tribute to your mom is lovely.

Thank you. She loved the cards you sent to her. That was so sweet of you.

I only wish I had sent more. 😦

So sorry to hear of your loss, Darlene, but what a wonderful tribute to your mother. Very moving. You have a great family. Enjoy the many memories. Happy Easter!

Thanks so much, Christa. I have been blessed with a wonderful family and great memories. Wishing you a Happy Easter as well.

A lovely homage

Thank you, Sheree.

You’re very welcome Darlene

Darlene, I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. She was obviously a wonderful person, and I know you have clear memories to sustain you. Take care!

So sorry to hear of your loss. She sounds a wonderful lady who touched so many lives. You’ll always have fond memories.

Thanks so much, Clive.

I am grieved at your loss Darlene. Thanks for sharing lovely memories of your mom. Love and hugs.

Thanks, Balroop. She was such a good mom. xo

Sending my sympathy for your loss, Darlene. You’ve created a lovely tribute to her here on WordPress.

Thanks, Stevie. I hope it reflects who she was. I could have written pages.

A powerful and emotional post, Darlene. Your mum sounds amazing. So sorry for your loss.

Thanks, Anne. I feel the loss deeply but was lucky to have her for as long as I did. xo

Sorry to hear your loss of your dear mom, Darlene. I’m sad for you not to be able to be with her at her bedside to say goodbye and not even able to attend the funeral due to the Covid. Your mom must be a happy Christmas baby. She was beautiful and she lived a long life.

I’m sure your happy memories of your mom live forever in your heart.

What a beautiful reminder and may it be your comfort:

There are three things that last forever: faith, hope, and love, and the greatest if the three is love. 1 Corinthians 13, 13

Thank you, Miriam. She was a happy Christmas baby and we never missed her birthday.

My daughter is a Christmas baby born on December 26. We never miss her birthday either, and always celebrate on her birthday, not mixed with Christmas day celebration.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother Darlene, but most of all that you were not able to be in Canada to say your proper “goodbye”. You must know that she will always be with you in spirit and that is what counts.

Thanks, Karen. My grandson sent me a message after the service and said I was there in spirit. So sweet of him. I know Mom will always be with me as Dad has been for the past 14 years. Thanks for your kind words.

I’m so sorry to hear of your mom passing, Darlene. Sending you a load of hugs and good wishes.

Thank you, Jennie. The hugs and good wishes are most appreciated.

You’re welcome, Darlene. 🥰

What a beautiful tribute to your mom. I feel like I know her after reading this. Thank you for sharing her with us! Keeping you in my prayers .

Thank you, Beth Ann. We were both blessed with wonderful moms. I will be forever grateful for the mother I was given. xo

Thank you for sharing your wonderful mother with us. She was such a treasure!

Thank you, Anne. She was indeed a treasure.

I’m sorry to hear about your Mom. Mine passed last year so I understand. Great photos and post.

Darlene this brings a warm hug and my heartfelt sympathy. I can only imagine how hard it was to not be able to attend the service. I enjoyed watching the video and seeing these snapshots of your Mom’s life. Always a smile on her face. May she rest peacefully and you find comfort in the memories of all your shared times together.

Thanks so much, Sue. I am finally getting my head around not being there. My memories are so precious. xo

Please accept my heartfelt condolences on the loss of your beloved mother, Darlene. I lost mine in November of 2019, and the grieving is so,so hard.

Thanks, Liz. I wish we could keep them forever, but we can´t. I will always miss her.

You’re welcome, Darlene. I know just what you mean.

I’m sorry for your loss. It’s especially hard in today’s times…

Thanks, Sam. I know I´m not the only one who has had to go through this during the pandemic. xo

No, you’re not. I did as well…

What a lovely tribute, Darlene. You have so many great memories to hold onto, which is a blessing.

Thanks, Debra. I have indeed been blessed.

What a wonderful tribute to your beautiful mother. Sending warm hugs your way.

Thanks, Donna, all hugs are welcome.

Such a lovely tribute to your mom. What a special lady! I loved the wonderful thoughts shared by family members, and the video is terrific. As you pointed out, Covid has messed up our normal grieving process. My mother-in-law passed about six weeks ago, and my wife is also struggling with not being able to have a Celebration of Life until later.

Thanks, Pete. She was very special. I´m sure she understands why I couldn´t be there.

This is so heartfelt and touching. I am so sorry for your loss. Your Mum seems like an amazing person. God sent. I offer you and your family my sincere condolences.

Thank you for your kind words.

Sorry for your loss. I lost my mother 30 yrs back still feel her absence in my life. Many time I thought that I would write her life story but never penned down my thought. your post inspired me again. Nice tribute.

Thank you. We never ever forget our mothers. I do hope you write her story.

Dear Darlene,
my condolences. What a great tribute to your mother. The picture of her is GREAT, what a beautiful woman she was.
Thanks for sharing 🙏🙏
🐣🐣🐣🐣 Happy Easter 🐣🐣🐣🐣
The Fab Four of Cley
🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

She was beautiful inside and out. Thanks so much Klausbernd.

You are very welcome, dear Darlene.

So sorry for the loss of your Mum, Darlene. So sad you couldn’t be with her and family, but what beautiful tributes to her you have shared. I’m sure all those kind words are a comfort to you. I know she will always be with you in your heart. Take care.

Thanks, Norah. Yes, she will always be with me.

A beautiful video, Darlene your mum has such a lovely smile …Covid has certainly stopped us from doing much which is normal but hopefully, you can make up for that soon…Your mum will always be with you in spirit and you have lots of lovely memories… Love and hugs xx

Thanks, Carol. I am so thankful for the lovely memories.

Of course you are, Darlene.. and lucky many don’t have them ❤️❤️

Commiserations, Darlene. I’m so sorry to hear of your loss.

But, what a beautiful tribute you’ve shared with us. Thank you. Your mum was certainly an amazing woman.

Thank you, Cath. It was healing to put this together.

So sorry for your loss. I lost my dear Mum many years ago now and, although the pain never completely goes away, the time will come when a smile comes more easily than a tear. Your Mom lives on in your children and grandchildren as you keep her memory alive. God Bless You x

Thank you so much, Pamela. This is true, Mom does live on in the grandchildren and great-grandchildren. I will miss her forever but am thankful I had her for so many years and have all these wonderful memories.

What a sweet tribute to your mom. I’m sorry for your loss and understand. The missing is ever present.

Thank you. I needed to do this.

So very sorry for your loss, Darlene. What a wonderful tribute to her mom – the video is lovely.

Thanks, Terry. I felt good putting the video together.

Darlene, such a loving tribute. Please accept my condolences on the passing of your mother, and I’m so sorry you couldn’t attend her service. That photo of her is beautiful. Hugs. xx

Thanks so much. I love that picture.

Oh, Darlene, I’m so very sorry to hear that you’ve lost your lovely mother, especially since you weren’t able to see her to say goodbye. That must make it particularly painful. But you appear to have had an idyllic childhood with such a kind and caring mother, and the descriptions of your family life help to explain how you have turned out to be such a lovely person, too. I do hope your memories are some solace to you, and also the knowledge that your mom is now at peace, and that you will all be together again one day. xx

Thanks for these kind words, Ruth. I did have a wonderful childhood and am blessed with great memories that do give me solace.

So sorry to hear this Darlene, but she had a full, rich life and you gave her a beautiful tribute…

What a beautiful soul that gave everyone fond memories.

She certainly did. Thanks, Sheryl.

Third time around to read this post, Darlene – beautiful, eloquent and a celebration of a life, well lived. Sending much love and many hugs!

Thanks so much, Rebecca. I appreciate the hugs and love.

Beautiful in every way, Darlene. Toni x

That she was. Thanks, Toni. xo

A wonderful tribute, Darlene. It must have been a mixture of tough and happy, writing that and preparing the lovely picture show. As I may have said before, people we love never really leave us and it is a privilege that they were in our lives for a while. Take care x.

Thank you, Mike. I found writing the obituary and later this post as well as putting together the video very healing. In light of not being there, this was the least I could do. I know mom will never really leave me.

Darlene, I am so sorry about your dear mother’s passing. Losing one’s mom is a very difficult sorrow. It’s good that you have such wonderful memories to keep in your heart. May our Lord be your constant Comfort.

Thank you so much, Lynn. xo

Saying goodbye is always so tough. Your mom sounds like a lovely person. You are lucky to have so many fond memories of her. I am so sorry for your loss, Darlene. Hugs. xo

Thanks, Laura. I feel like I haven´t actually said goodbye. Perhaps when I get back, I´ll be able to.

Beautiful tribute to your wonderful mom, Darlene. Mine passed last May, and I know how much your heart hurts. But I truly feel that they are still within us, always. ❤

Thank you, Pam. I did recall that you recently lost your mom as well. I too believe they are always with us.

This is a beautiful tribute to your mother. Hope she is at a good place. Very many prayers to your family!

Thank you for your kind words.

So sorry to read this Darlene. It seems that your mom was an amazing woman. It’s lovely to have so many wonderful memories of her. Still hurts though! ❣

Thanks, Gloria. I will miss her forever. xo

A very heartfelt salute to your Mom. Covid has robbed from so many families the opportunity to say goodby.

Thanks so much, Bernadette. Nice to hear from you.

I’m so sorry for your loss. Totally loved the post and penning down thoughts of your mom

Thank you for your kind words.

So sorry for your loss of your dear Mom, Darlene… These are beautiful memories and a wonderful tribute celebrating a life well lived. Hugs and prayers for you and all the family…

Thank you so much, Bette. She spelled her name the same way you do.

I’m late in here, but… I’m sorry for your loss. This post is a beautiful tribute to your Mom.

Thank you so much, Victoria. It is never too late.

I’m sorry to read of your loss, Darlene, but it’s nice to read the warm memories of your mom.

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