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Linked by the Love of Books

Posted on: January 14, 2012

You hear it frequently stated, “Women need friends”. We generally do not thrive without them. ‘A landmark UCLA study suggests friendships between women are special. They shape who we are and who we are yet to be. They soothe our tumultuous inner world, fill the emotional gaps in our marriage, and help us remember who we really are.’
The article goes on to say that ‘women are a source of strength to each other. We nurture one another. And we need to have unpressured space in which we can do the special kind of talk that women do when they’re with other women. It’s a very healing experience.’ 2002 Gale Berkowitz


Darlene and I share a long standing friendship. We met through our daughters, Gill and Marcelle.
Many years ago, towards the end of the school year, we both moved (along with our families) to Calgary. The local schools were at capacity so our young daughters had to be bussed to a school a fair distance away. Consequently, they met while riding the school bus. Both being new and friendless they naturally gravitated towards each other. It turns out that they had common personality traits which are still evident, reflected in the career paths they chose.
Over the years I have often heard Darlene tell the following anecdote. “I will always remember Marcelle coming home and saying, ‘You will really like Gill’s Mom. She is a book writer, too.’” And that is how it all started. It might be said that Darlene and I, also, gravitated together being new to the neighbourhood and, somewhat, friendless. We quickly discovered our common interest; the love of books and the desire to one day publish a book of our own.

Early on in our friendship Darlene and I shared books. A practice that we maintain this many years later. When we both lived in the same city, it was easy to get together to pass along a favourite novel. However, when Darlene moved to a different province it was no longer a matter of a trip across town to hand over a literary find. Initially we resorted to the mail. One book box went back and forth so many times that it earned frequent flyer points. We have had to discontinue this practice, however, as the cost of postage has become prohibitive. We each have created a sharing pile that grows and grows until our next get-together. Sometimes it takes a year; fortunately books do not go stale.
When we get together it is not always in each other’s city. Over the years Darlene and I have met in many different locations. Some places were fairly ordinary but some remote and exotic, such as Dubai. Our next get away is already planned – a Danube River cruise. It goes without saying that during our stops we will find a book store to add more books to our vast collections. And these books will be added to the stack to be shared.

Do you have someone who you are linked by the love of books?

Darlene & Sheila in Spain

Darlene & Sheila in Spain

2 Responses to "Linked by the Love of Books"

This is an amazing journey you two are on. 🙂

Thanks Patti! Friends like Sheila are indeed a gift. We never know what is around the corner but it is always exciting.

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